There are numerous cases of fraud on the Internet and users of dating sites have every chance to encounter scammers. Still one needn’t get discouraged as it is not difficult to secure yourself from them.
Their schemes are rather simple. They will never ask money at the beginning of your virtual acquaintance. It’s quite natural, anyone would refuse and they expect it. So they just take time to worm themselves into your confidence. They know that people who seek for serious relationship in the Internet easily trust their interlocutors, especially when they have been communicating with them for some time, let us say, for a month.
As scammers most often find their victims among men, let’s look at the situation from their point of view first. No matter who initiates your communication on the dating site, you or the girl, she will be continuously writing that you are the man she has been looking for all her life. Soon (in a week or in a month) time comes to discuss your meeting. The girl will say that she would be happy to visit you but for the lack of money necessary for visa or something like that. Any man if he likes the girl will provide her with $200-300. Then the situation develops depending on how audacious the scammer is. Either the girl disappears forever (you realize at last that you know neither her phone number nor address) or she informs you that the visa is ready but again she can’t afford buying a ticket because of her little salary. What will the true gentleman do? He will offer the money taking his chance to see her. As soon as the money is received, your love will hardly ever contact you.
This is only one of their stories. Aiming at getting your money scammers invent a lot of others, even about her child’s mortal disease or her getting in a terrible accident. You can also hear less tragic stories ‒ she has to pay penalty for having broken a vase in a museum otherwise she will get in prison. As it sounds so realistic, your first intention is to help her. When you send her money, don’t bother to send your messages to her. You will get no answer, because she has got everything she wanted and now she is manipulating a new victim.
What concerns girls, the situation is a bit different, still they also face scammers. When you feel that you are in love with the man and tell him about it, he disappears. You are going out of your mind with worry when a week later he appears and writes he became a victim of some robbers who took him to another town. He needs money to get home but no one can help him. Girls are sensitive as a rule so it is not difficult to arouse pity in them, especially if the man seems to be so close to you. Why not send him some money? He is sure to return it on coming home. But in reality he disappears and this time for ever. There are stories about ill parents, etc.
You should know that you won’t be able to identify a scammer from the beginning of your acquaintance. Being good psychologists themselves or hiring a psychologist, these people know how to act. Of cause, people can get into situations when they really need help, including money. Such cases constitute 2-3% of the total number of inquiries for help on dating sites. If you believe that with your refusal you will kill your chance to establish a relationship, lend your helping hand, but be cautious. Save your money and help fight scammers.